Rachel, a emotionally disturbed 8 year old girl was presented for sandplay therapy when her parents were undergoing divorce. (To know about her background please see archive on previous blogs). In this final blog about her case, I shall discuss how the change in themes of her sand stories reflects catharsis and her apparent acceptance of living in 2 households.
Earlier on I mentioned about a meeting that my colleague and I had with Rachel's parents where I provided feedback on what seemed to be her worries as reflected in the repeated theme of her sandplay stories. It could be seen that both parents loved their child and were ready to do their part to ease their daughter's emotional distress. They probably played some part in addressing their daughter's concerns and the sandplay sessions could also have provided some catharsis. Rachel's last two sandplay sessions reflected story themes about taking control and nurturing. All in, the seven sandplay sessions stretched over a period of 7 months.
After that there was a break. Rachel's mother cited being very busy or perhaps she found her daughter to be more stable A follow up session took place 5 months later. By this time as I understood from Rachel her mother has a new relationship with a divorcee who has his own children. The two families including the children seem to get along quite well.
At the sandplay session after the long break, ie. the 8th session, Rachel's sandplay story took a dramatic turn from her previous stories. It was about discovery of a new world with abundant growth and a new life. In the sand-story a mother left a cave with her 2 newborn babies to look for a 'new world'. They found one with lots of plants and animals. There was lots of sunshine and rain in that world. There she built her home and watched the beautiful sunset every day. In the story three years passed and a male stranger came and got permission to stay with them. The man helped to look after the children and he and the mother of the two babies soon got married. Rachel ended her story with "everybody gets what they want".
Whereas the initial sessions have themes of uncertainty, insecurity and challenges, this session has all the symbols of growth, new beginnings and acceptance. Rachel's remarks that after three years the babies 'have grown' showed perhaps her own emotional progress.
This session can be deemed as the last although I did see Rachel 2 more times three to six months apart which her mother thought would be good as a gauge of her emotional well being. These final sessions reflect her feelings and concerns about living with a new family whilst hanging on to her memories and longing of the old days before the divorce when the family was living with her natural dad.
Not many children respond to sandplay therapy as spontaneously as Rachel although most are able to reveal inner concerns in the repeated themes of their sand story.
As per Plato (Greek philosopher 427-347 BC): "You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation."
